5 signs that shows you are wrecking yor marriage

Here are five signs you might be the reason
why your marriage has not worked out its
kinks:
1. You can't handle the in-laws. Research
shows that how spouses relate to the inlaws is
a strong predictor of marriage longevity. A
man who gets along with his wife's parents is
wise — his chances of a strong marriage
increase by about 20 percent. Women who get
along with their in-laws actually have an
increased probability of divorce, by about 20
percent.
If you are the husband who does not invest in
knowing or liking the in-laws, or if you are a
wife who can't say no to the mom-in-law's
constant, last-minute demands, you are
probably driving your spouse to divorce.
2. You are always the victim. You never do
anything wrong, and your spouse is always
doing things on purpose, obviously. He/she is
completely insensitive, never takes you into
consideration and probably even forgets you
exist. In return, you never ask for anything,
you allow your spouse to over-indulge and
underestimate.
Perhaps your spouse has even been unfaithful
but you will forgive every single time. If you
truly cannot see any of your own faults or
imperfections and blame the other person for
all that goes wrong, you are probably driving
your spouse to divorce.
3. You can't handle pain or anger. No, this
does not mean that you explode in anger every
two minutes. This could very well mean you
pretend to never get angry in an effort to avoid
confrontations. You cannot be fully honest
about how you feel because you don't want to
be the bearer of bad news.
The idea of pain is overwhelming, and it is
something you avoid because it is "bad." You
always wait until you cool off, which takes
about six months and by then you don't even
remember what happened. It must not have
been that important …
The idea of anger makes you angry at yourself
for even thinking it, because you believe you
should never feel angry. When your spouse
gets angry, you feel a lot of pain and you work
hard to get rid of the pain. Instead of dealing
with your hyper-sensitivities, you pretend to
not be angry, give silent treatments and fake
orgasms, or better yet, you fake headaches
to avoid sex altogether. If you are more
concerned with keeping the peace than you
are with making peace, you are probably
driving your spouse to divorce.
4. You know you're right. Negotiating typically
means that your spouse will think it over until
they agree with, well — you. There is nothing
more frustrating than trying to reason with
someone who already knows how the problem
will be resolved. Its not that you are being
unreasonable, you actually make a lot of sense
which makes everything more difficult.
Since you make sense, you assume that you
are right, and that your point of view is
therefore the only "right" one. Your spouse
never gets it. Ever. Or hardly ever. Because
you really are willing to negotiate, just not this
time because this time you are right. As usual.
If your spouse can't make decisions without
you having a great "suggestion," as you
typically do, you are probably driving your
spouse to divorce.
5. You constantly belittle your partner's
needs. Men need words of affirmation and
sexual intimacy. Women need time to be
heard and appreciated, as well as random acts
of kindness. Minimizing how important these
are is like denying water to a rose garden and
expecting roses.
The bond that holds couples together will
never bloom unless you give it what it needs:
validation. When couples start to hold their
needs against each other, they vanish any
possibility of real intimacy. Afterall, your
spouse should be the one person on this planet
who wants your needs to be met, even if they
can't meet all of them.
If you withold sex as punishment because you
know how important it is for him, or you skip
intellectual foreplay consistently because you
are too tired to romance her, you are probably
driving your spouse to divorce.